Dear Fauxgressive Liberal Dickwads

Do you believe in choice? I mean really truly with your whole heart believe that people have the right to control their own bodies? Or are you just saying that you believe in a woman’s right to choose because 1)no intelligent woman would ever sleep with you if you said otherwise and 2) you want to have abortion as an option in case your girlfriend’s birth control fails.

Maybe I’m being a bit too hard on the boys here. How about you girls? Do you really believe in choice, or do you believe in choice under certain conditions? Do you believe it’s ok for a poor brown woman to have abortions, but make snide comments if she chooses to have babies instead? Have you complained about poor single moms draining the system with their multiple babies? Have you bitched about someone having multiple abortions instead of using birth control or just keeping their legs shut?

Choice is simple people. It means that people get to decide for themselves whether or not to have babies. Period. You aren’t really pro-choice if you are denigrating someone’s choice TO reproduce. You are actually just as bad as the forced pregnancy douchebags, but coming from the opposite direction. Just like it’s not a big leap fro the forced pregnancy nuts to go from banning abortion to banning birth control, it’s not a big leap from limiting the number of pregnancies a woman can have to forced sterilization.

Here’s the truth peeps- there is absolutely no good reason to have babies. None. Every single reason anyone will ever give you for having babies is, at it’s core, a selfish one. Same thing is true for people deciding to not have babies. AND THAT IS OK. Really, it is. It’s a choice that we have to make on our own. And for some of us, the actions of say a poor single mom who seeks fertility treatments and ends up with 14 kids seems insane. But I bet the idea of choosing to never have kids at all seems just as insane to her.

And lets not forget how fucking sexist and classist all this Octomom crap is. If she were married, she’d get her own reality tv show to help pay for all the babies. She’d have giant corporations falling over themselves to donate diapers and clothing and cars. But she’s single, and poor, and has a “funny” name that doesn’t exactly sound waspy. And that makes people think it’s okay to tear her to shreds and hope for disaster to strike her kids.

So if you really, truly, absolutely think you are pro-choice, ask yourself if you can support someone else’s choice when it goes against everything you believe? If you can’t, you’re not really pro-choice. Instead, you’re giving the forced-pregnancy blow hards fuel for the fire when they scream about forced abortions.

People First

I talked to an old high school friend today. Once a year or so she and I IM or chat on the phone till one of us is called away by the daily grind of kids or work. She has 3 kids (two who are toddlers) and hubby got laid off recently. There are no job options for him in my old town, and she’s thinking it’s time to pack up the kiddies and see if there’s a better place for them. She wants to know if Washington’s social services treat people better than Nevada’s does. I told her only slightly. The problem is that in Nevada, they think women should just go out to a brothel to feed their kids instead of relying on social services.

Another dear friend came over the other night for tortilla soup and box o’ ritas (margaritas in a box- $6 on sale at Safeway). She’s been out of a job for a year now. She spends hours and hours everyday sending out resumes and is on file with every temp agency in the city. She’s stressed out cause her boyfriend has to play sugar daddy every time they go out, and he pretty broke too.

And me, well I’m stressed to the max. Ruth got into grad school (YAY Ruth!) but that means that come August 1 I’ll have to move again. I don’t know if there is anything out there I can afford. And my job may be non-existent come summer, forever, when the school sells off my program to another school. And I am turning my bedroom closet into a room for the Kid so we can shave a little bit of money off our rent and get another roommate. And the Kid is being his typical, awesome self about it. And his shoes need to be replaced. They are held together by teenage boy foot funk alone at this point.

And there are emails and comments from people I don’t know who are losing their homes. And I don’t know how to help them. And dear internet friends whose young relatives need $ for cancer treatments not covered by insurance. And I feel like a tool for being too stressed out to remember to post a link.

So I have to wonder, with all the stimulus talk and all the bank bailouts, what about us? We are not the margins. We are the real, living, breathing people who make up this country. We are not pork, though Republicans seem to think that any money that might go to help us a pork program and Dems are so eager to be bipartisan that they agree to it.

People first needs to be the motto of the day. Not banks, not bipartisanship, but people first. It is the people of this country, average everyday people like you and me, who do 70% of the spending. We buy the milk and the eggs and the shoes that keep the economy running. And when we have to choose between milk or medicine, shelter or shoes, then the economy dies. It doesn’t matter how much you prop up banks. It doesn’t matter how much you cut taxes. These are not the things that makes us able to buy bread and shampoo or to pay for electricity or cover the costs when the plumbing explodes (as ours has, repeatedly).

So when the news bunnies talk about the economy and talk about what the government is doing, remember that it won’t help unless they put people first. We need housing and food and health care. We need education for ourselves and our children. And we need jobs that pay a living wage so that when things pick up again we won’t have to live in debt to keep the economy going.

People first. If you help us out, things get better for everyone. If you ignore that, then it’s gonna get worse.

RQ Cooks- Hot Gazpacho

We don’t actually know what to call this soup. I made it cause we had a bunch of avocados that needed to be used and we were tired of tacos. Hot gazpacho was the best we could think of. But it’s really good and not at all ketchupy like a lot of tomato soups.

You need:
One large can of whole tomatoes
4 cups of chicken stock (we’ve been using Better Than Bullion no Chicken stock- this is the AWESOMEST stuff ever)
1 large onion – roughly chopped
2or 3 carrots- diced (you will be blending the soup so you don’t have to be perfect with the onion, carrot and garlic when chopping)
3 or 4 large garlic cloves diced
veggie oil
basil
oregano
red pepper flakes
salt (use sparingly if you use salty stock)
pepper (I used lemon pepper)
bag of frozen corn
4 avocados (cubes)
cilantro, scallion, tortilla chips, cheese and/ or sour cream for garnish

Heat oil in a large stock pot. Throw in carrots, onions, garlic and sweat for about 10 minutes. Then throw in toms (plus can juice), stock and spices. Bring to boil, then simmer for 15 minutes. Blend everything in a food processor of blender till smooth and return to pot.

Add corn and cook for a few minutes till corn is cooked. Add avocados. Serve and garnish.

They don’t pay me enough

Every year there is a new student who drives me bat shit crazy. And after 5 years, the students have been, without exception, dudes.

I have had a student who would come in, have me explain the same things to him over and over and over again until I sat down and basically did the work for him. This is the only student I have ever yelled at, because it was painfully obvious he was trying to get me to do his homework for him.

This quarter my “problem student” is just sooooo obtuse I feel a bit like slicing my wrists every time he comes in the lab. Last week I had to explain to him that objects on the screen are not life size, just like on TV. Today it was 20 minutes explaining to him that he can’t get rid of a blank document because there is nothing to get rid off. He just kept staring at the screen saying “but I don’t want it” and trying to select the page to delete it. He wasn’t trying to exit the program. He still wanted to use it, he just didn’t want there to be a page there. (The program is a CAD program, but imagine someone who wants to type up a document in word and then gets pissy because he has to open a new document to do it).

That is all. I am now off to find any reasonably sharp implement with which to gouge my eyes and eardrums out.

In which I break out of my normal behavior patterns

I am not the type of person who asks for advice. I will vent or rage or gossip, but I rarely ask for other people’s opinions on what I should do. Instead, I mull things over, I research and I generally only talk about things once I’ve already made up my mind to do it. I do, however, ask for help once I know what kind of help I need.

But this time I am going to ask for advice and suggestions.

I need a new career. I need some kind of career path that will make us middle class with minimal investment in education/ training as far as time and money go. There is a strong possibility that my current job will end in the near future and even if it doesn’t I need a living wage and benefits (which I don’t get here).

I thought about nursing (cause after the Kid goes to college I could take a nursing degree anywhere in the world) but the older I get the more squeamish I get. I’ve been known to hide my eyes during the gross parts of House.

Skills- well I’ve got 15 plus years of office admin experience. But I have maxed out my potential as admin extraordinaire and am tired of the pink collar ghetto. I also have experience in health and welfare benefits management (which I quite liked because of the technical knowledge required regarding health care law). I am good with technology but not an uber geek. I am more of a fast learning end user and pretty good at teaching it (see last 5 years of employment as lab rat). I’ve also done a good bit of writing/editing/proofreading on the side. I like proofreading legal briefs quite a bit, despite the fact that I never edit blog posts. (Plus I need a good grammar book, I can never remember when you use colons vs. semi-colons)

Have almost got my AA (one quarter to go and no financial aid money left- fuckles).

I have near super power levels of deciphering bureaucracy speak, legal rules and regulations, etc. I once nailed a bank manager for not following federal banking rules for making deposits available. He said it was the first time in 12 years that he’d been wrong about it.

So peeps- what do you think I should be when I grow up?

(ETA: During the writing of this post Ruth and I have been emailing back and forth about my not finishing my degree in poly sci for the same reasons mentioned here. Even just getting an under grad degree in poly sci ONLY qualifies me to be a cab driver. Ruth thinks I’d do well in economics (I am geeky enough about it) but it might be a bit like going to law school- too many douchebags to make it tolerable).

Structuralists make a comeback

And damn it’s about time.

I was reading this piece by Robert Reich in Salon and let me just say that reading lines like “But structuralists like myself don’t believe that the economy can fully recover unless these underlying problems are addressed.” makes me giddy. Hang on with me peeps. It’s time for another round of Red Queen gets all deep and philosophical on ya.

I am a structuralist. Structuralism is a not currently popular philosophy that posits that everything has a structure including human relationships, language, politics, etc. and that by changing the basic structure, you change society. It’s pretty basic really. Politically it went out of favor with the rise of the neocons and the neolibs (though that fact that those two belief systems exist is proof that we need changes to the structure now just as much as we needed them during the 60s and 70s). We don’t get to be the post modern society (post racist, post feminist) until we deal with the fundamental flaws of how we distribute power and resources. And that means changing the structure. (Dear favorite anthropology proff who looked at me in horror when I told you I was a structuralist- I”m STILL RIGHT!)

In the early 70s, with the Cold War raging and two super powers holding proxy wars on nearly every continent, Immanuel Wallerstein developed World Systems Theory as a way of explaining power and dominance on a global scale. It was a way to explain and prove the flawed structure we use for distributing power (political) and resources (economics). But Wallerstein’s theory of core, periphery and semi-periphery actors doesn’t just apply to nations on a world stage. It also applies to domestic systems. Look at domestic economics and you have the core (the rich) the periphery (the poor) and the semi-periphery (the middle class). Look at the nuclear family structure and you have the core (the father) the periphery (the children) and the semi-periphery (the mother). Same thing is true of corporate structures, you have the core (the board, the CEO, etc) the periphery (average workers) and the semi-periphery (management). What this kind of system does is insulates the core by making the semi-periphery responsible for keeping the periphery in line. The semi-periphery does so in the hopes of one day making it to the core (see Gramsci’s theory of cultural hegemony which explains that people do things in the best interest of the power class because they believe it is “common sense”. This explains all the blue collar workers who vote Republican because they think taxes are a bad thing, when higher taxes will give them greater benefits).

But back to Robert Reich and the structure that is our current economic system.

As late as 1976, the richest 1 percent of the country took home about 9 percent of the total national income. By 2006, they were pocketing more than 20 percent. But the rich don’t spend as much of their income as the middle class and the poor do — after all, being rich means that you already have most of what you need. (Emphasis mine)

I call this the gallon of milk theory. Say you 10 families with $10 in their budget for milk and one family with $100 in their budget for milk and everybody buys exactly as much milk as they are going to need. The family with $100 to spend is still only going to spend $10 on milk, otherwise they’d have a fridge full of yogurt in no time flat. The middle class and the poor spend more money on more goods than the rich ever can or will. So making sure that the middle class and the poor have enough money to spend on those things is better for the economy overall and in the end better for the wealthy too, as they make more money off more sales and are less likely to have their heads chopped off in French Revolution style uprising.

But that is not how we’ve been running the economy for the last 35ish years. We’ve been running on the trickle down theory, that if you give to the rich it will eventually trickle down to the poor. But a better structure would be to give to the poor and middle class, through higher wages and universal benefits for healthcare and education so that money can bubble up to the rich. The more people that can afford a safe and comfortable life, the more stable our entire economic system is and the less cyclical it becomes (that’s also basic Keyenesian economics- the it’s government’s job to temper economic cycles by taxing during booms and spending during busts).

So how’s Obama doing on changing the structure? So far, I am not impressed. The bank bailout was money to the rich without a single dime going to help homeowners facing foreclosure. Healthcare has been backburnered (and was never really health care but a more convoluted version of the private system we have now), and half the workforce was basically overlooked in the stimulus bill. For every 10 to 20 construction jobs created there may be one or two new secretarial positions.

The structure is broken. We will never recover economically if we don’t attend to that first. It is the individual American workers and families who must come first, not business or banks. When American families can afford both cereal and milk for their kids, and don’t have to worry about an emergency room visit being cause for bankruptcy, then things will be on their way to improving. But anything that doesn’t take care of people first will do no more good than the Bush tax rebate checks did.

The new structure must be built on people first, business second.

Once upon a time

I wrote coffee porn. Well, coffeerotica to be exact. And the darling boy I wrote it for has posted it on urban dictionary.

Here’s a uhm taste:

Good coffee is rich and delicious all by itself. A well-pulled espresso has a perfect cap of creama- not frothy cream -but the rich brown liquid that is the perfect mix of oils from the coffee bean and hot steam. It should not taste bitter or burnt. It should be sipped slowly, like a good wine, and enjoyed as the magic caffeine stimulates the brain like a familiar lover. I sit quietly, almost reverently enjoying my espresso and was almost in love with the woman who pulled it for me. I think I could love anyone who makes me coffee that good

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So darling readers and lurkers- please head on over to urban dictionary and give my little literary adventure a thumbs up. Pretty please? With a nice cap of crema on top?

Forced Prengancy FAQs

Forced pregnancy douchebags are just soooooooo predictable, they bore me to tears.

So instead of repeating the same arguments over and over or debunking the same lies time after time, I think we need a cheat sheet. We need a handy little card we can pull out when the fuck nuggets come whining and annoying. And I want all your help in creating this handy little guide, so send me the stupid things you hear most often from the fucknuggets and we will come up with a pithy guide to shooting them down and elucidating their asshatery. Perhaps I’ll even come up with a pocket guide you all can print and laminate for in-person encounters with forced pregnancy blowhards.

I’ll start off with a few:

1. But it’s a life and it deserves a chance to live!

So do most patients waiting for kidney transplants. Can I tie you down and force you to give a kidney to one of them? Or maybe just haul you in for weekly blood donations? Or bone marrow? Or a sliver of your liver? Wait you mean you don’t want to be a life support machine for another person against your will. Funny, neither do women.

2. But there are so many people who want to adopt.

If those people were really doing it purely for the children then there wouldn’t be so many kids in foster care. For every child that is adopted there are 2.5 that are waiting for parents, and most of those kids are brown or black. The likelihood of being adopted gets even smaller if the child is disabled. How many foster kids have you taken in?

3. But what if you abort the second coming of Jesus or the guy that will grow up to cure cancer.

Seriously, is your god so inept that he’d let the second coming of Christ happen to a woman who will have an abortion. Isn’t he supposed to be all knowing and shit? As for the cancer thing, there are literally millions of people working to cure it, the one loan dude theory of science is mostly false and seriously outdated.

4. But we’ve aborted an entire workforce and now we have to hire illegal Mexicans.

Better that we should have an entire class of people between the ages of 0 and 36 who were raised by parents who didn’t want them. Well if they lived that is. We could just end up with an rash of Casey Anthonys. There is also the theory that legalized abortion led to a drop in crime rates cause unwanted children are more likely to commit crimes. So fewer abortions, more murders of living people. How is that a gain actually?

(please note that I am pro-immigration and that I am just repeating the douchebaggery in #4)

So that’s my start. What have you got? If you are a lurker who doesn’t feel like delurking- send me an email.

More proof for the libertarian doochebags

I have a certain family member (uhhum..) who goes through these idiot libertarian phases (and thinks he’s well educated even though he’s never read Adam Smith or studied economics- but neither have most libertarians).

The last time I saw him he told me that he thought it was a perfectly proper use of the free market if some people had to die because of tainted products.

No- I am not shitting you. Dead people are an acceptable way of judging product safety. No other regulations needed. No FDA. No safety standards. Just dead people.

So when I read about more than 100 children getting sick and 8 people dying because a Georgia company knowingly sent out tainted peanut butter I kinda wanna tie this dude to a chair and play peanut butter roulette. Let’s see if he thinks death is an acceptable outcome when it’s his ass on the line.

Libertarians always think they are the special snowflakes that will avoid all peril because of their sound choices. I think that when the end times come- we eat the libertarians first and the rich second. Otherwise the rich will just get the fuckers to do their fighting for them with promises that if they fight hard enough they will get rich too.