When you can download books to your phone.
I am totally in love with this. I’ve got 6 novels on my phone now and when the Kid needed to read War of the Worlds for school we put it on his phone too.
Mostly it is books that are past the copyright date, but there are a few contemporary writers who put things up too. I’m fine with the classics though, being that I am a serious anglophile when it comes to reading. I just finished Wilkie Collins No Name
Things I keep saying are being turned into articles by other people, could it be that I have hit on something here?
Granted, this is from a Libertarian magazine (in my heart I am a libertarian on social policy, marry who you want, control your own body be it through birth control, abortions or what current;y illegal drugs you wish to consume) and a socialist-capitalist hybrid on other stuff. But that’s beside the point.
So my little Mommy Fetish Essay that has pissed people off where I say women should stop telling people their children are their greatest accomplishment wasn’t wrong”
“Indeed, looking after the kids appears to be only slightly more pleasant than doing housework,” asserts Gilbert in his bestselling, Stumbling on Happiness (2006).
Of course, that’s not what most parents say when asked. For instance, in a 2007 Pew Research Center survey people insisted that their relationships with their little darlings are of the greatest importance to their personal happiness and fulfillment. However, the same survey also found “by a margin of nearly three-to-one, Americans say that the main purpose of marriage is the ‘mutual happiness and fulfillment’ of adults rather than the ‘bearing and raising of children.'”
Stop lying folks. Kids are hard work. If it is necessary that children are born and raised for the good of society, then we need to start demanding compensation beyond false claims of personal fulfillment.
That I am rarely wrong? Oh I will freely admit it when I am (I actually have to write a post about how you can defeminate women after having a lovely chat with my doctor) but it is rare enough that I get to claim royal status.
What, you thought the queen thing was just cause of my giant ego? giant ego alone would make me a princess. Giant brain makes me Queen.
So after that bit of braggery (not a word, I know) more proof that your fearless leader wasn’t wrong about the white dudes.
I have a writing deadline for a piece I am working on about how to raise feminist boys. As usual, when any deadline hangs over me, I am procrastinating.
Instead I am reading about philosophy. See, I am a structuralist, not because I think it is the best way of doing things (quite the contrary) but because I see that it is how we have arranged society. The problem I have always had with structuralism is that it is great for explaining, but not for solving, societies problems. And I am a girl who likes solutions.
So I spend a lot of time making fun of the little postmodern hipsters. Buttttttttttttt, there is a point to it. Postmodernism allows for individual complexity in a way that shrugs of capitalism en mass in favor of a more manageable, smaller, individualized way of producing with larger, more expansive ways of interacting. See Etsy.com as the best example of it that I can think of. Thousands of individuals making pieces of their choosing arranged into one large sphere for trading goods. This is directly contrasted to our modernist way of having one huge producer or generic goods for all (see Walmart).
So that’s what I’m doing. Any of you peeps out there with your brains drifting into philosophy?
I’ve loved George Monbiot since manifesto for a new world order, but this piece on the cost of lives makes me all swoony.
George, if you’re single…………….
except maybe bill collectors.
I just can’t face watching another guy friend turn into a cheerleader for Obama. I can’t. It hurts me personally.
But why are you taking this so personally? You might ask. It’s just politics.
Except it’s not. “Periodically feeling down” may not seem like a big deal to you, but you’ve never had a boy totally dismiss you, your ideas, your opinions and your anger because “it’s that time of the month”. That is personal. It means that Obama thinks that women are to be dismissed as incapable at least once a month.
So I can’t get into another argument with a guy friend. I don’t want to hear how by not supporting a candidate who dismisses me and half the population is equal to my voting for McCain. It isn’t. I have a right to demand that the candidate I vote for has my best interests at heart. Telling me to hold my nose and vote is like telling me to cut off my tits and pretend I’m a dude. It ain’t gonna happen.
The dude vote. The dudes who don’t have a problem with women in general, but won’t vote for a particular woman. I am pretty sure that no particular woman would ever measure up to their dudely standards, but they can keep telling themselves they aren’t misogynist asswipes. Won’t make it true, but they’ll feel better about themselves.
(Sorry that the first link is behind the Salon firewall- it’s just a quick commercial to read the article- I swear)
I realize that I am one of only 2 females employed on this ENTIRE campus. I know I spend all of my work time in front of a computer typing away.
However- I AM NOT YOUR GODDAMNED SECRETARY!
I made a lot more money as a secretary, actually. You do not pay me enough to do you piddly ass typing for you. You just pay me enough to teach you how to do it yourself.
That is all
With all the talk about women and cooking, I thought I would share one of my little secret desires.
After eating my country pork ribs in sticky barbque sauce, my favorite Aunt asked why I didn’t go to culinary school and open a restaurant. I don’t want the pressure or responsibility of owning a restaurant, and I don’t want to spend years in a hot kitchen as some male chef’s underling. And I don’t want to be stuck in the kitchen. The thing I like best about cooking for people is their reactions to it.
So I love throwing dinner parties. Someone once described my parties as barefoot bohemian affairs with gorgeous food and much wine. That pretty much sums it up. I’ve had as many as 17 people in my little apartment sitting cross legged on the floor balancing plates of yumminess. I love that.
So when I heard about this Honk Kong phenomenon of “Secret Kitchens” I got all dopey eyed. Instead of running a restaurant, these people throw little dinner parties in their homes for pay. I would love to do the same thing here and I doubt that there is anyone else in the city who can do both vegan and gluten free meals that meat eaters and bread fanatics love.
Unfortunately, I don’t think I can charge my friends for eating here and I have no idea how one would go about drumming up customers for a secret business (shhhhhhhhh- don’t tell the health inspector).
OUYANG: hey hey we’re the monkeys!
ME: and people say we monkey around
but we’re too busy singing
to put anybody down
ME: miss ME
OUYANG: like crazy!
hahaha
ME: aweeeeee
OUYANG: i amused myself by giving advice to a father who wants to raise a feminist daughter of five
ME: I did that too
OUYANG: i see that…dear FSM it takes ME so long to write a comment that five people lap me in the mean time
ME: if you just let the typos fly you can write much faster
OUYANG: hahaha…i should try that sometime…
OUYANG: oh noes! MElissa at shakesville is claiming to be the “queen cunt”…i thought you owned that title!!!!11!
hahaha
ME: Nah- she’s the queen cunt of fuck mountain, I’m queen of the universe
different princpalities
OUYANG: oh ok…just checking
ME: actually- different queendoms
OUYANG: [wink]
Sent at 3:19 PM on Wednesday
OUYANG: damn…i am behind on my shakes…i have no idea what is bringing the wrath
ME: the same thing that has been pissing me off- liberal white dudes and their sexism
It’s nice to know i am not the only one driven to near nuclear explosions
OUYANG: i am trying to find some threads
i have been told that i lose my point when i get emotionally invested in the argument…so i have backed the fuck off lately
ME: the periodically speaking threads- one by liss and one by jeff fecke where he apologizes for not picking up on the sexism sooner
Guys never get told they are losing the point when they get emotional
OUYANG: i just saw that
i know…gah it pisses ME off…
i should have saved my AIM chat from last night for royal amusement
ME: ohhhhhhhh yes
and since sexist arguments are almost always the same- it’s easy to develop a few biting retorts that work universally when you analyze on fight
OUYANG: yup yup yup
ME: Like “but I clean and cook and care for kids!” Big Fucking deal. You take care of your house and children like you are supposed to
No one gets a pat on the head for doing that. It’s like “I wiped my own ass today”
OUYANG: i know!
BTW i love kate harding
ME: I am really pissed off that an essay about WOMEN gets turned into all about how boys are mistreated
And I love kate harding too
OUYANG: three times in three days i was referred to as “domestic” b/c of my cooking…of course i enjoy it, it’s in my biology!!!
gah!
ME: can’t win for losing
either all we are good for is house keeping domesticity or we are wanton sluts who can’t take care of ourselves
OUYANG: i know that there are facets of feminism…and i know that bigotry and stereotypes transcend all class, gender blah blah blah…it’s the extremes we are dealing w/ here…
ME: yep
OUYANG: Men are not declared gay on the spot (as if that is an insult) for enjoying cooking…if they were, all the chefs on fucking TV would be gay
ME: I know- and CHEFS are always Men, cooks are women
even with my friends who are professional level chefs, if they have a vagina they are COOKS
OUYANG: i know i know…it is frustrating as hell to try to explain that to anyone b/c they start crying “you’re being a reverse sexist” or soME horse shit like that
ME: OMG_ I know. Or “Angry much?” Yes i am angry, deservedly so
OUYANG:
it is so hard when people we see as “good guys” lash out like that
ME: it’s the hardest
when it’s people you like
but that is the nature of sexism, it’s freaking everywhere
you can’t escape it by surrounding yourself with good people
OUYANG: yup…my fav was when my friend dragged out the “what do you say to the women who don’t think like you”
and “you have cognitive bias…two women could hear that comment and only you take offense b/c you are looking for sexism
ME: What women? I’ve Met exactly one and she was a raving nut case Ayn rand fan
OUYANG: well i told him i thought they were self-defeating…
maybe not right…but that’s MHO
ME: I would have told him that maybe they wouldn’t talk about it in front of him cause they know he’s a sexist, but to other women they would
OUYANG: ugh…hindsight
but i do know women like that…but here’s a surprise…they are all SAHMs or republicans
usually both
ME: Yes, but like i said, sexists are predictable. That argument will come up again and now you have new ammo
OUYANG: true true
ME: And those women who are SAHMs, ask them once their kids are all school aged and they are bored to freaking tears cleaning toilets everyday
OUYANG: oh, one of them asked ME who took care of my kids while i was working…
implying that only SAHMs provide that service…
ME: I know- i spend as much time with the Kid as SAHM’s do, but I bet i know my kid better
OUYANG: probably…b/c i get limited time i make use of it…talk about school, etc
ME: yep
and cause you aren’t tied to a house all day, you prolly like yourself better and are happier as a mom
OUYANG: oh yes…in fact i have been going a little stir crazy in my job search
i fucking hate hawaii…obama got 76%!!!
gah!
but things rain sexism here…i am not surprised…and the white hatred is huge
ME: Its becoming inevitable
I am so happy i live in a blue state and don’t HAVE to vote for him in Nov
I don’t know if we have write in spaces for president
If we do- I’m putting in Hil
If not- I’m voting socialist
Sent at 3:50 PM on Wednesday
OUYANG: hahaha
nice one
OUYANG: hey! ron i am a racist sexist ass paul is out?!?!
ME: what
OUYANG: did he give up yet???
ME: about time
OUYANG: i haven’t confirmed yet…
jeff fecke says that paul took his $73 million and went home
ME: I can’t find the news
I want to take 73 million home
OUYANG: damn…i don’t think it’s true yet
ME too!
shit i would split it w/you!
ME: If I turn myself into a racist, sexist, libertarina candidate
can I get 73 million
and btw- libertarina is my newly coined word
OUYANG: i think so…i think it’s in the job description
ME: damn